why do you have a purity ring?

someone asked me this on my formspring <- haha, and idk no one reads this except certain people so I'll just leave this here because I don't want to post it there.

1. Because Christ was pure

2. Because it makes me sad how people feel like they can replace a true connection with something physical. i'm not condemning real relationships where people really care for each other and partake in things like that, nor am I condoning it, but it makes me sad. people feel like chemistry is all physical. sure, maybe it stems from physical attraction in the beginning, but a connection, a relationship, can't run on that. maybe they do it to set off a spark, but why can't that be achieved differently? drinking too. drugs. anything. maybe with close, established friends, okay, but there are so many things we do to feel close or in essence liberate ourselves from whatever holds us back from being open, or trying to get to know something. this happens with anything, when you have a teammate who you share an amazing passion with for your game, but can't talk to about just normal life. these things might help the fun or get things going, but they essentially become the fetters that hold us back from forming anything meaningful. and soon, we become too scared to do anything, and all these 'replacements' become permanent components of who we are and we become absolutely nothing at all. like in a relationship, becoming physical might help you feel close, and of course it will, our bodies are a huge part-- but definitely are not all of-- how we communicate to each other. but the problem is, sometimes our bodies can communicate, but that's all we can do with each other. and soon, when you find yourself without anything to say, you replace it with something physical because that FEELING, that CLOSENESS you feel to them during those moments tricks you into believing that there IS still something to hold onto.. that's not the worst case scenario, but it's one of the worse ones. and maybe it's just because we don't handle things well, or I don't know. I just want to really connect with somebody, really love them and I think that can be achieved without sex. also, I don't want to risk losing somebody or not ever get to know them fully and ruin what could have been. but ya know the could have beens just weren't meant to be. i've definitely been hurt and i've definitely wasted my time with things I thought meant something, but held as much validity as a piece of crap and sadly it's been the other way too and I hate knowing how careless I could be, especially when yeah..

basically relationships don't stem out of sex, and especially at this young age (where I don't even want to date haha) we honestly, don't know what we're doing, we have less self control. obviously regarding hormones, but I don't mean it in just that way, I mean that we'll let something stupid grasp us and we'll believe that it's the way it should be-- the way most teenagers view many aspects of their/our lives. we think we know what we're doing when we're really still toddlers taking their first steps so to speak.